Having an Elopement with Family and Friends
Updated: Jul 4, 2020
So you have decided that having an elopement wedding ceremony is the best option for you.
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You don’t want to spend so much time on planning and break the budget unnecessarily, plus the adventurer in you says a dreamy destination with your loved one while reading vows to each other surrounded by nature is perfect for you. That is all fantastic, but you still feel that something is missing, right?
You cannot imagine committing your life to your partner and living through an experience you’ll remember for the rest of your life without the presence of your family. The people that are always there for you. You feel like whatever mountain you wanted to climb, or whichever glacier you were planning on trekking through, or kayaking through a lake, you just cannot imagine those moments without them.
Well, you don’t have to worry because you can still have the elopement of your dreams while your closest family and friends are there with you witnessing those precious moments.
Eloping with Family
An elopement doesn’t have to mean that you are running away with your partner to get married in secrecy. While some couples decide to do that and then tell everyone they got married, you can absolutely include your closest people in the ceremony from the start and still have an epic experience.
If an intimate wedding focused on you and your loved one is what you are after, and you don’t care about what you wear or where you are, then eloping is just the thing. Even if you include 10-12 people in the ceremony, the focus will still be on you two, and you will get a chance to experience a unique wedding out of a fairytale.
The only thing that matters that day is that you and your partner are satisfied with the decisions and choices you are making. That is what eloping is all about!
You don’t have to worry about meeting any expectations, worry about other people’s opinions, or fulfilling any obligations. You can do or say what you’ve always wanted while committing to your partner for life. So, your family can be a part of your elopement while you and your partner head together toward the ultimate adventure, exactly the way you wanted to.
How to elope with family?
Now that you know you can indeed have the adventure of a lifetime with your dearest people accompanying you, it’s time to talk about the details. How to include your family in your elopement? And how to organize that whole adventure trip in the best possible way?
The thing is, eloping is all about breaking barriers. You don’t have to follow any rules or guidelines because guess what?! There aren’t any. There are only ideas of what you can do, and as long as it works for you, you can totally go for it. The sky is your limit.
With that said, if your mind is set on elopement with your friends and family included, below, you can find some ideas and things to consider to plan the ceremony in the best way you can.
AN elope ceremony
If you and your partner want your closest friends and family to be there at all times during the elopement, then having one intimate ceremony would be a good idea. If a mountain area or the beach is your way of eloping with several of your dearest people, then bringing them along is what I would suggest doing.
You can include some of your family in the entire day. Meaning you have them by your side while you are getting ready, through the exchange of vows and the ceremony, and the reception after eloping. You practically have almost all segments of a big wedding without the stress while keeping everything else relaxed and to a minimum.
The only thing that may be an issue is the fact that you might have to consider making compromises about the location and how you want your elopement to go down depending on your guests. See, if you were planning on hiking on a mountain top to exchange vows there, you have to make sure all your eloping guests are capable of following your tracks.
With that said, if making compromises based on your guests isn’t what you want to do – and I totally support your decision, it’s your day after all – then read through the following elopement idea.
Splitting the ceremony
I stand firmly behind the idea that the couple should not give up their vision of their ideal elopement based on the age and ability of your guests. So, if you need to reconsider your plans, then why not have the cake and eat it too. That’s what we all want, right?
You can have it both ways by doing whatever adventure you had in mind with just you and your partner present. You can even bring some of the guests that can follow you while having the second part of the ceremony back home or back in the hotel where everyone is staying.
For instance, you can climb that mountain top and exchange vows and then climb down and take photos with everyone, have some drinks and celebrate further. That way, you still get to share your happiness with your closest ones without making any sacrifices of what you had in mind of your perfect elopement.
A two-day elopement
When it comes to splitting the ceremony, you can even spread it over two days and have a weekend elopement with everyone.
Some couples like to take it slow and embrace the moments they are living through, so taking a day after the ceremony to be with your friends and family and celebrate is something that might work the best for you.
That’s what eloping is, anyway—doing the things that work for you the most.
Or, you can have your ceremony with everyone the first day, reception, celebration, exchanging of vows with an officiant and everything you have imagined, and then devote your time to your partner the next day. Just the two of you going on adventures you have planned, taking photos, and reading your own private vows.
Having two ceremonies
Another great elopement option is to travel with your partner and have your private, unique eloping ceremony. The exchanging of vows, professional photography, creating memories to cherish forever, and then when back home, you have another intimate celebration where you include your closest friends and family.
Skype your eloping ceremony
If your family and friends cannot be there with you, why not use good old technology like it was meant to? Facetime or skype or the plethora of other apps can bring your dearest closer to you so you can all share the beautiful moments.
You can even have them send you letters or emails beforehand or read them to you as their wishes for the couple after you exchange vows. It can be a grand celebration after the ceremony too.
As you can see, there’s really no right or wrong way to elope with your family. I would say the most important thing is to do what makes you and your partner happy. After all, it is your special day, and the primary focus should be on you, above all.
If you still haven’t found your perfect way of eloping, don’t hesitate to contact me. I can be of help with the photography services, logistics, and any other ideas you may wonder about.